As a man and a WIN custody of your children

User submitted one year my husband and I started this battle. I write this for my husband to spread good fathers out there who deserve, have custody of your children. As a father several Attorney's and guardians of the law "good luck (and then laugh little)" I said, it is very difficult for a man to gain custody of your children! "." We have done research on cases and asked several other men we knew that were divorced and had ex-wife and children and guess what. You reason it a father get full custody is unusual. BUT I'm here to teach another story! I WIN custody and without my ex-wife a type not only, is to stop, do not want children or caught doing drugs etc... She me fought for the end.In very that entry, will I give some basic information, it is really really complicated and every situation is a little different. I'll try to write articles, what are the most specific.Difficulty: moderately ChallengingInstructionsThings need: good support Personexcellent record phone of Conversationsa Keepingrecords quite GuardianA true and clear reason why the child or children would be better with the father of the mother. 1, Miss your intentions and motivations are really in the best interest of your child! before I started way come, must check first the reasons seriously, for which you want to your child. Make sure your intentions and motivations are in the best interest of your child. Revenge, child support, for yourself or others prove you're a good father, etc.. When you and your ex-wife are both responsible, co parent and caring for parents that it is always better for the two of you KindernDas joint custody of your children and you shall equal participation your children's education. It is certainly vorzuziehen for children see your parents to work together and be civil to each other. To the point of my ex wife and I no part package Guard have so much time, same responsibilities. Then I thought I was the best parent, but I ignore, how bad things were at his side. After one year my ex-wife his irresponsible, not ready, the children first, to make and it is in fact his actions were absolutely harmful to the physical and emotional well-being of children. at this point I made for full custody. It wasn't an easy decision. The effects, I consider that it would affect my kids and my current wife. It took much sweat, blood, tears and several nights without sleep, make sure that I was the right thing to do for everyone. There are SO many mandatory information and procedures that I can cover everything in an article may if after having read this important but basics, please check to read part 2 of the custody 2 father winner you must keep detailed records! now start to very detailed records. 1 to maintain. Not reply to your phone for your ex-wife, instead messages allowed him leave. Record and save each message also those you think are important, you might need later. For example, if you told judge has children most of the time, but then you have the voice his ask to keep the kids for a day or two mails. Another scenario is when refuses to say to refuse demeaning, or your significant other, name calling or any other it tries. In the courts it is reflektiertR than ever before, this or that says you, while your lawyer is recording. Although these little things are his testimony discredit you. You want toavoid "he said she said" at all costs. The judge sees this as minors and don't want to hear the bickering, however, if you it stored, which will be transcribed, here it is for the judge in black and white. While judges write to read some point the Court, cannot enable things he usually Lirapar according to his own time. 2. If you need to talk your ex-wife, put your phone on the telephone speaker and record the conversation. Is legal in New York City 2 people to record, as long as the parties 1 notice. Don't forget you need ready to compromise sound reasonable, and show you why on the interests of children. If your ex-wife in various questions concerning your divorce, accesses your character name calling etc., you must be the one that is very quiet, no yelling, do not meet his words except to say are only the interest children discuss is. Treat my ex only fire Fed woman with honey and made and said many things, the really stupid. In my case the judge very difficult my ex-wife alleging that and indeed written to the custody, that "behavior be so cruel and unjust for order described can be." Let be not nobody! 3 Emails or even another way to your questions and discussions in black and white. Your ex-wife will deny nor say things in court and your lawyer it questions to read e-Mails then. A word of caution with E-mail is that the judge not what sound could say "" you use so much attention to as sarcastic or ErfüllenAlso, once again show a humiliating, your only concern for children is. Offer other options, alternatives and make sure that are willing to compromise. 3 seem maintain a detaillierten calendar if you have your children4. Calendar - you have a separate calendar for everything to keep what your children schedule. If children are your care and are with her mother. Of course, you have your children the best, is for you. Calendar also show how you really spend with your children if you are in your care. For example, a registration to maintain where children have if you with her mother. it by sending at the guardian all time out and party, the day-care centre are to al 7 hours a day - only return home and put it into bed in his care - "loiter" and a monitored are easy? But it is well with you. We have reserved Friday for family night in my house. I am a 15 year old, sometimes complains and spend the night with a friend instead of this will but I explained that my priority containing children spend time with you. If my son one friend for dinner and a movie with us that is nice would but to bring my children with me. 5. A daily newspaper. This is a must! You need time and effort if not similar a commitment in this envy to be placed. Daily newspaper which is written in the hand better, the judge can see that you keep this everyday instead of writing a final year law for. In the journal, you must include all the contacts you with your ex-wife, conversations and information also everything back and talk to the mother house your children. Children of spill the beans on what went on when you hear, and if they show no real response to what you say. Alot on this topic to discuss, so are we in detail on this to MATHDO MATH.Depending later. 4 on where in the divorce or custody are process, different things. As a rule, the man deserves much meHR as a woman, it works on his behalf in the appearance of the child support. Many years ago my ex-wife is $35 per year (eight years was good money). Now my ex-wife is autonomous and only supposedly save $9 k taxes last year. Technically it does not matter, but at least the judges and guardians of the law can see that it has the potential to earn more, but chooses not to do. If the ex-wife requires more money and complain that it takes to support the children, so the judge will be taken into account. In my case it was important for me even to discredit more. Example I my ex-wife to keep martial home instead of split equity may do deviation of the child standard support (we speak later child), Exchange Deune, what had the name home refinancing, remove my name from the responsibility. This spirit right now mortgage co. Give him a loan only do k 9 credit bad year and have? I assign his claim for loan mortgage and obviously it was to earn income claims now his tax return at all do not match. New honest. You need to find everything costs each bill was outside and run the calculation. These things really can. It spends your money wisely and for the benefit of children or it is out and make firmly at the bar, your nails have made weekly, etc.... However, wines that you afford könnendas child, their children. Check it out, for example the national grid website provides to see your online payment.(if you account information or other information). It will show all payments the grip, then can the application stack, claimed not all revenue, including what you support numbers. To discover other bills are as follows. Dienstprogrflame, cable, Internet, phone mobile, car payments, insurance, gym memberships, daycare, guardian, credit card (if statements on expenditure see?), gas cards etc.NE mathematics on everything, you may be surprised to see what you can discover, although too much, he was the credibility again deals. Job - stability if it has been moved from one job to the job, why is this? You can call someone to apply for his former employer, and a reference book. If good, are great info. This way. 5 compromise to pay support standard NYS ratio Deivate child! Child support: There is SO MUCH on maintenance for children, for I say now on only it will briefly touch I am much more detail in part 2 of this article. First NY default ratio is that must pay non-custodial parent (usually the father) 17% of its revenu.e (before taxes are removed) for a child and 24% for 2 children. Depending where you are in the process, but if you edited the child support order, the following is important: do independently agree to child support State relationships can exclude even if it is just a few dollars, it will be important if you ever need to child support for children or to ändernfür a change of custody. In my case I had kids (equivalent to him) due to a number of reasons such as the time because I instead it matrimonial house fractionation of equity in the average, allowed to keep etc....I was able through a small percentage depart from the standard support children. This was to be extremely important when I filed full custody. If you give a little and compromises on issues you want whether it your ex-wife to deviations from the standard support hekeep, do! Even if you JOINT - SHARED physical and legal custody, the highest employee (human) required to pay maintenance for children at the lower of the employee (the woman). It is a terrible act as father has so much time with children, as well as the mother, so that the father expenses for the children committed while you are with him. It is therefore not only for the children in his in-house pay but also the ex-wife home supports. In the next article I will explain, why is NYS appear biased against fathers and laws/judge fathers. 6 law guardian is indistinguishable your child step you! Pitch your ex-wife! GuardianDepending Act on where in this process your children may have you already a Guard Act (LG), otherwise, one will be appointed your soon. The LG has not your children, mothers sell not! The LG is to act on behalf of the child, including express, the wishes of the child adopt what are, provided that the District Court accepted the child wants. Once again, there is so much, I to discuss the issue of upholding the law Wmal it focus on it in the next article. Here are some fundamental points you need to know are for the time being; Don't try "the LG your Serv WIN" te, just be yourself. Guardian law dealt with children and their parents on a daily basis, children see right through all "brainwashing". Never negative talk about your ex-wife for the Court, if there are children. Never so you at any time, believe me it again will bite you. It is perfectly express parental concerns about your ex wife with LG, but be careful; If the Court feels like you are just bashing woman not good for you! Step simply because your child might want to live with you, the LG will agree. If your child wants to live with dad, wEIL it allows children and remain in the later and buys toys, isn't that the Court would like to hear. The LG is clearly looking for this parent more structure, stability, consistency, security offers and maintain children physically and mentally. My children wanted to life with me, and quite frankly, I know why, when I was a kid, I would not. Laughing out loud... My home, my wife and I have set the rules, with follow set expectations. My children are required to help tasks in my house when requested. I do not talk or profanity tolerate, back (sometimes I House, give you what you remember are, and what are our rules). If you are at home mother, there is very little discipline applicable, this is the end of him and would rather equal to shout. Children are rare with parenting time, because it allows you spend the night with friends several nights in a row, and just "drag" one monitored. Work at home, you sometimes questions if you have, if it can suggest you do if you want. The opposite is the case in my house, I'm on the school site and pull off the coast of all obligations. I ensuiSie show my child to me that each piece when Ellen' is not correctly we it. 7 Redo that have your kids a lot of friends, but only 2 parents! Thier PARENT be your friend! I spent hours at the table with my kids homework for you to get... much grief. But for a trial judge where established I had full custody of my children; To each class (which was no more than 8 years Act) passed and were suspended from school (another big change). You need to have fun with your children who are there for you, spend time with you, but ultimately thier parent be your friend – have a lot of friends, but nur 2 parents. The most guards are very interactive with children and are very good to tell the truth out and not trained. In the next article I will explain how such situations with your kids to handle where you need to defend your position a bit, but you want not to "children or coach in your point of view brainwashing". Another important aspect that will examine the LG is the relationship that has your present wife with you and the children. The new woman role really BIG on the whole of this process. I'll tell you what it should do and shouldn't can not and how can help your new spouse or your case damage!